Living as the Son of a Widower Filled With Resentment

It's coming to eight years since my beloved mother's passing.  Dad has been feeling bitter ever since he 'lost' Mom, to the point that it had affected my brother and me and our lifestyles and attitudes towards our social environments.

This is the first time I am actually penning thoughts about this matter.  There is no way that I can go into the details, other than expressing with much mutedness the longsuffering of being under such circumstance, which can only be experienced through a length of daily communion with my family at home.  Of course, truly, God knows.

Sometimes it feels as if this is viewed as an adapted, male-oriented version of the biblical story of Ruth (and Naomi), in this case of the mutual relationship between a widower and his remaining son in his immediate household.  Also makes one wonder, especially with the cultural acceptance in our society regarding the softening of hearts towards widows and the barren; why, in contrast, there is a surprising poverty of empathy towards the elderly widower who appear to have no hope for an heir to their family.

Being overwhelmed with the expansive collective of personal experience attached with such a family situation, I can only be this brief for now, while having hopeful expectations for this post to undergo occasional updates.  Yet, I know I can only profit from the grace of God and trust in His providential wisdom, in granting His peace that surpasses my (and all) understanding.

Comments

  1. Samuel YuenMarch 31, 2007 at 5:55 AM

    I remember Auntie 6-E and her legacy well, brudder, as well as the depth of your love for your mother.

    My heart goes out to you and your family. It must pain her if she can see your father's bitterness and family's frustration.

    I will continue to pray for God to melt your father's bitterness and for his sons to be girded with God's strength.
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  2. Sim StellaApril 1, 2007 at 8:03 AM

    May God's love minister to your dad.

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